Let's just say... you are 'complicated'. :evillaugh
I am not intentionally evil, mean or cruel. But if advice is frequently ignored, I can't help but to be brutally honest during assessments and appraisals. That, for the recipient, could be considered mean and/or cruel.
It's human nature sometimes to wish that there are others suffering similar fates so you can take comfort in thinking that it was expected in most others so you don't feel so pathetic and left out, instead of thinking to yourself that you suck and you're the only one suffering.