I'm not offended at all, evertyone has their own thoughts of particular series, and persona,lly I find it refrehing to speak with others of their personal views of a given series. No offense is taken or is ever intended on my part.
two points; lack of fight scenes youm entioned, when I watched the series (rewatching it now) I'm seeing a fight scene to three fight scenes, for every episode, even if it is a battle of words it (to me) still counts (because sometimes something said by one instigates another into a fight in another episode) I think That Shui Ling did the part rather well considering the age she was at the time (11 years ago, last I recall she is 30 something? (don't really remember))
question; could you explain how exactly YLC lost to ZYH? (sadly I never actually noticed that happen in the series or the movie :/)
As to the actors to play the parts, well, i think it is a (personal) toss up between Shui Ling, and Li Bingbing, personally speaking both women can protary the character very well. for the part of ZYH; I'd think either Julian Chilam or (if possible) Hu Ge
But that's just me, the book is wonderful too, I guess it really actually helps some because it creates a mental video/movie to watch as one reads.