they check out other guys? i know a guy who would comment on another guy's body and still claim to be straight. and i know that he's had sexual things done with another guy, but he said it was only for fun. i don't get it.
they check out other guys? i know a guy who would comment on another guy's body and still claim to be straight. and i know that he's had sexual things done with another guy, but he said it was only for fun. i don't get it.
Some guys do check out other guys, but they're straight. But if they have done sexual things with other guys, then they are not straight. In your case, he's probably in denial or doesn't like to be labeled as bisexual or gay. I have plenty of gay friends that would probably say the same.
okay, what if that friend of mine had sexual relationships with these guys for money, does that make any difference? he claims it's all for the money.
If it is for money, why can't he find a sugar momma?
Not sure about "straight" (really depends on how exactly you define "straight") - but I guess he may have done all that you've mentioned and still strongly prefer women to men.
As for the "sexual things done with another guy" - I'd differentiate between homosexual behaviour and homosexual orientation as such. Occasional homoerotic adventure doesn't necessarilly make you a gay (depends on how many adventures of this sort he's been through...;-)).
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I just don't see how a guy can sleep with another guy and still call himself straight, even for money. There are bi curious people out there but if you touch another guys once, and continue on for a second time and after...then there's just no way you're straight.
He's gay or at least bi.
Closet gays have all kinds of excuses.
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Sounds sort of bisexual.
I guess he claims to be straight simply because he wants to avoid the "bi" label.
If you openly label yourself as bisexual, you're making a statement that many people out there simply do not want to make - not only because it can mean a social disadvantage, but also because it is fairly restrictive in terms of your own identity and image.
Like going on a party in an outfit that doesn't actually fit or feel quite right.
But I don't know your friend. Maybe he just really prefers men and has trouble coming to terms with it.
(I personally would just do away with this ridiculous gay/straight dichotomy.
It doesn't really work that way.)
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i'm not wanting him to come out in the open and tell everyone he meets that he's 'bi' or 'gay'. i am just wondering why he denies it to close friends. i mean this guy and i talk like we're bff. and most of the stuff we talk about are 'guy' stuff and when we look through magazines he'd tell me which guy he wouldn't mind 'getting paid' from. i find it a little creepy that he can do that but still say he's straight. i'm to the point where i want to ask him if he's ever thought of me in a sexual way since everyone tells me that guys and girls can't be best friends without having those thoughts. then of course my bf would totally go bunkers and kill the guy.
As I said - I don't know him.
One question though - has he identified himself as straight only after you (or your friends) brought it up and asked him - or did he himself bring up the topic?
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Then he may simply want to avoid identity labels. "Straight" is a label of sorts, too - but it's more or less the norm, and it's about as close to "no label" as you can get.
"Gay" and "bi" tend to have a lot of annoying connotative meanings.
I guess he's probably more comfortable talking in terms of preferences rather than identities. What he likes as opposed to what he is.
I can only guess, though... He might just as well be what people call "closet gay".
Still - he's apparently quite open about what he likes, the two of you can discuss guys and stuff, you seem to be fairly close - and I see no point in trying to force him into putting himself in one category or another.
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yeah but i don't know if his girlfriend knows about him. is it in my position to tell her? he's leaving to go see her in 2 weeks, well not exactly just for her because that is where he is originally from and his family is there too.
Mmm... I definitely wouldn't if I were you. How, when or if at all he tells her, that is (in my opinion) up to him. Give him your opinion - but I wouldn't go further than that.is it in my position to tell her?
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gugu ur just trying to find an excuse to tell his gf so u can be with him huh, i know u like gay guys!
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If he checks out other guys, then he's at least bi-curious, if not actually bisexual or gay.
I do wish guys would be more open about commenting on what they think of other guys in terms of looks.
Because I'm somewhere in between,
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i have no problem with his sexual orientation, it's just that i don't like that if he is at least bi and he knows it then that means he's lying to me and to other people close to him. everything he does in my eyes at least makes him at the least bi. and he says he's straight but i know that the last last 10 people he's slept with are all guys.