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    so lets share the little crushes that you've had when you were younger. ^_^

    i've had 3 crushes up until now. [yunjae not included, because yunjae is love, not crush]

    -2rd grade: this boy named Josh. OMG! he was so cute! i had transferred from another school after we moved and i was so lost! the teacher asked him to take me around school during break and i think that was when i started to crush on him. he even shared his fruit roll up snack thing with me! being asian my parents never gave us any snack to take to school! so he'd always bring me one. awwww i was so touched! i crushed on him for a whole year until his family moved away. haven't seen him since.

    -4th grade: this boy named Jason. He was a jerk at first because he always made fun of us girls for playing chinese jump rope during lunch break. he said my other friends and i stole his friends from playing basketball cause those boys wanted to play jump rope with us. then the annual basketball tournament came and he was the star of our class cause he was the only one that practiced. we lost the game though, but i was surpised he didn't yell at us for losing when he had the right to. so after that we practiced with him every other day and he'd play jump rope with us on the other days. surprisingly he was so good at jump rope that everyone wanted him on the team. we became friends and everything until that ***** karen came! she took him away from me! that *****!

    6th grade: this boy named Jay: okay, this guy was like the hottest thing ever! he's half japanese! i think that was when i wanted to learn how to speak japanese, but then again the kid didn't know a word of japanese. but yeah i didn't crush on him at first, even though i thought he was cute, cause every girl in class liked him!

    one day we were assigned in a group to do a project, there were 5 of us and we were supposed to meet at a local nature center to collect leaves. when i got there i only saw him by himself! we sat and did our homework and stuff at the bench waiting for the other three but they never came so we're like, lets just get going cause we had to collect a lot of leaves. he came on his bike so he said we could use his bike so we can get around faster. i was so shy sitting behind him! we spent the whole day collecting leaves and since i didn't live far he dropped me off at my house. that was when i started to like him.

    we went our own ways for middle school, then the biggest surprise came when i met him again in high school. he was still the cutest thing ever but i saw that he had a girlfriend that he had hooked up with right before the start of the school year. but in high school none of our new friends knew that we knew each other, only a couple handful that went to elementary school with us. so every time we saw each other in the hall way we'd smile and say hello, but that was pretty much it. he broke up with his girlfriend a couple of times during high school, but i never thought of doing anything about it cause i knew the girlfriend from a couple of my class. i didn't want her to not like me.

    i even found out that he did like me! his girlfriend from high school, yes the same girl that kept me from doing anything about my crush, is now a co-worker of mine. even though we're not friends we still talk when we run into each other and one day when we somehow ended up eating lunch together she told me that they broke up a couple of times because of me! 0_0 she's not mad about it now. she's happily married to another guy now. so i was shocked when she told me that. she was like, he told her when they broke up for good that he had a crush on me since elementary school before he was even in my class! so that meant he had a crush on me even before i noticed him!

    0_0 i just noticed that all of my 3 crushes names start with a 'J'!!!!!! what in the world? and the love of my life now is Jaejoong! omg!!!!!!!!

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    You're missing a John in there.

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    or Jerry, Jacob, & Joe

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    Quote Originally Posted by jadebunny9 View Post
    You're missing a John in there.
    Heh. I dated a John.
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    I don't do crushes. It's either all-in or nothing.

    Good thing I'm not a casino gambler. I'd have gone bankrupt twice already.

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    Quote Originally Posted by The Batman View Post
    I don't do crushes. It's either all-in or nothing.

    Good thing I'm not a casino gambler. I'd have gone bankrupt twice already.
    So you consider a crush just putting part of your money on the table? So you are a double or nothing type?? I am not like that and I don't think there is anything wrong with crushes... I think it is good to start like that, but if the guy or girl is not worth it, SCREW THEM!!

    I have had some crushes here and there, but nothing ever came out of them. Therefore, I never loathe over them. I would remember them but just for sweet old memories sake. Life is short so why waste it on people that are insignificant and not worth it???
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    For me crushes generally don't work. My crushes are always on those out of my league, and I just end up hurt. It's better (for me) to develop the relationship from ground up.
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    Quote Originally Posted by jiang bao View Post
    For me crushes generally don't work. My crushes are always on those out of my league, and I just end up hurt. It's better (for me) to develop the relationship from ground up.
    Well I usually have crushes on people who are in my league and they are usually people that I like and like me as well. Therefore, it is always a 2 way thing, not a one way thing. I would NEVER like a guy that does not like me. Don't a number of relationships start from crushes?? I think having a crush is one of the first steps...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Trinie View Post
    So you consider a crush just putting part of your money on the table?
    That's a good way of putting it. I don't do casino games, but to further the analogy, crushes are like investing $10 when you have $1,000 to spend. Easy come, easy go.

    I actually hate playing the game, so I'll only play it when the stakes are high enough to be worthwhile (that doesn't happen very often).

    Life is short so why waste it on people that are insignificant and not worth it???
    It's the "insignificant" and "not worth it" people that are the subjects of crushes. A "crush," by definition, is an easy-come, easy-go situation with little invested and little gained/lost. It shouldn't be mistaken for...er, the other thing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by The Batman View Post
    That's a good way of putting it. I don't do casino games, but to further the analogy, crushes are like investing $10 when you have $1,000 to spend. Easy come, easy go.

    I actually hate playing the game, so I'll only play it when the stakes are high enough to be worthwhile (that doesn't happen very often).



    It's the "insignificant" and "not worth it" people that are the subjects of crushes. A "crush," by definition, is an easy-come, easy-go situation with little invested and little gained/lost. It shouldn't be mistaken for...er, the other thing.
    I think it is also depends on you define the word "crush". For some people, it means more than just something little like you said. Do you mean your other thing is "love". Sorry, but I still don't think that you actually "loved" those 2 from your past.. But then again, "love" is also hard to define as well...I must say again, the past is the past so just let it pass. If you continue to loathe over the past, you can never be happy at all...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Trinie View Post
    I think it is also depends on you define the word "crush". For some people, it means more than just something little like you said. Do you mean your other thing is "love". Sorry, but I still don't think that you actually "loved" those 2 from your past.. But then again, "love" is also hard to define as well...I must say again, the past is the past so just let it pass. If you continue to loathe over the past, you can never be happy at all...
    Unlike the other thing, crushes do no significant or long term harm. That's why we give them that name. That name was virtually coined to characterize that low-risk level of involvement.

    If it becomes greater than that, it's not a crush anymore.

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    Quote Originally Posted by The Batman View Post
    Unlike the other thing, crushes do no significant or long term harm. That's why we give them that name. That name was virtually coined to characterize that low-risk level of involvement.

    If it becomes greater than that, it's not a crush anymore.
    I guess so....But then again, I still would not call it "love" either...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Trinie View Post
    I guess so....But then again, I still would not call it "love" either...
    I'm so glad you're not my jailer; you'd never give me a minute of credit for time served.

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    omg people! i was only in elementary school at the time! aish! i didn't even understand what it meant to really like someone at the time. i just liked eating their snacks or playing jump rope with them.

    now, to actually like/love someone is a different story. i'm like ken on that one. love is either all in or nothing at all. crushes have nothing to do with love in my opinion. and even if i was given a chance to date them now i wouldn't do it. maybe hang out but not date.

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    Quote Originally Posted by The Batman View Post
    I'm so glad you're not my jailer; you'd never give me a minute of credit for time served.
    Well to me, if you like someone it only makes sense to invest time in them if they like you back. If not, then what is the point?? Life is short and time is valuable so why spend it people on that don't deserve it?? That is why EVERY guy that I have ever liked in my life have always liked me too...IF they didn't, SCREW them!!!There are plenty more in this world and I don't think I am so bad that no one else will like me.... I can actually attract a lot of people since I am really friendly, treat people well and don't look bad either... Therefore, if a guy regardless of who he is does not care for me or like me back, then they are history in my book.. I am like that with friends as well so it is not just with relationships....
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    Quote Originally Posted by Trinie View Post
    Well to me, if you like someone it only makes sense to invest time in them if they like you back. If not, then what is the point?? Life is short and time is valuable so why spend it people on that don't deserve it??
    If love were truly a meritocracy with absolute and easily-defined parameters of value, as you're characterizing it, it would not be the source of so much anguish for humanity at large dating back to prehistory.

    But let's not kid ourselves: we know it doesn't work that way. Maybe it would in a perfect world; this is not a perfect world.

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    get a room you two!

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    Quote Originally Posted by GuGu View Post
    get a room you two!

    gugu doesn't like pda if gugu is not involved.
    Hey, well: it's an open party, you know?

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    Quote Originally Posted by The Batman View Post
    If love were truly a meritocracy with absolute and easily-defined parameters of value, as you're characterizing it, it would not be the source of so much anguish for humanity at large dating back to prehistory.

    But let's not kid ourselves: we know it doesn't work that way. Maybe it would in a perfect world; this is not a perfect world.
    I know exactly why you are saying that so I don't want to get into detail about it. But honestly, that is how it is with me... I did not mean to say that how I define love is perfect but that is how I handle things so of course I know that it isn't that way for many others. If it was, then why are there so many people who suffer from broken hearts and rejection? I have never suffered from that nor will I allow myself to(for now anyways). But seriously, I still wonder what is the point of liking someone that does NOT like you at all?? Those people remind of He Hong Yao in Bi Xue Jian. She constantly loathes over and is obessessive over Jin She Lang Jun even when she clearly knows that he does not love or like her at all. He even told her that straight out that he never loved her and never will... BUT she still constantly loathes over and goes crazy for him when he has already moved on and fell in love with Wan Yee. It's like gosh lady, get a life... Since there are plenty of people in this world, if some don't work out there will be others.

    One of my friends once told me this and I never forgot it... She said that there is not just one person in this world for you, but there are several. It's just that the one that you meet at the right time and place in your life is morely the likely the one for you.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Trinie View Post
    I know exactly why you are saying that so I don't want to get into detail about it. But honestly, that is how it is with me... I did not mean to say that how I define love is perfect but that is how I handle things so of course I know that it isn't that way for many others.
    I find that acceptable.

    I hope that you never need to see it otherwise. Having had that experience twice, I wouldn't wish it on my most hated enemy, let alone a friend. If life spares you that experience, all the better.

    Until you've experienced it, however, it's nearly impossible to understand. When I was younger, I didn't understand it either.

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