I want to talk about the act of being "nice" to girls. I want to hear it from the girl's perspective.
For me (a guy), I do not want to do the small thing, I don't want to open the door for you (girls), I don't want to pull your seat, I don't want to peel shrimps for you to eat. Why? well.
1) I'm looking to have fun eating/playing, and not having to worry what I have to do in order for you not to get upset.
2) I'm not your butler.
3) you are not disable.
Alot of asian girls find it appauling that I'm not willing to do that crap. I saw some of the BFs do it, and it's just not for me. I hate to say it, but that's probably why I don't have a GF haha. In all seriousness, are those things expected? for me I'm not desperate enough to be at a girl's hand and feet just so I can have a GF, i'm better than that.