Respect other people's opinions and views. If we learn how to do that than all of these fights and arguments will not occur.
Wow, you really have a big issue over these small gestures. Most people just do this because they care for their special someone, but, you make it into a power game.
Anyway, it's not required, but, it will be a nice gesture and will certain add points for the guy.
Don't date those girls then if you have such a big issue with this. There are many type of girls out there. There are girls whose boyfriend treats them like crap and they still stay with the guy. So, I'm sure you will find a girl who won't need you to do all those things.
If you are going to see this as a game (instead of a caring gesture) and are so grudging about it, just be yourself. No point being chivalrous when you are going to whine about it inside.
Last edited by kidd; 07-14-09 at 09:50 PM.
什麼是朋友?朋友永遠是在你犯下不可原諒錯誤的時候,仍舊站在你那邊的笨蛋。~ 王亞瑟
和諧唔係一百個人講同一番話,係一百個人有一百句唔同嘅說話,而又互相尊重 ~ - 葉梓恩
I don't do them acts. I just talk about them. If I've done them it'd be over with, no need to talk about it.
I do have a problem with these small things. And no, it's not a HS thing, it's a problem that exists at college, and up till 30 IMO, becuause I've seen guys over 30 in similar situation.
The point is that, such views on relationship to me, at least, seem immature and SHOULD only exist at a high school level. Of course, there will be people like this at every age.
Because I'm somewhere in between,
My love and my agony.
once again, talking as if your head is up your ***.
nothing new.
Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
In a true and mature relationship, yes - the man does small things for his woman because he cares and loves her. It would be the same reason a girl would do nice things for her guy in a mature relationship. A relationship that functions, lasts, and is actually fun to be in is one built on love, respect, and trust. It's never going to be about mind games or delusions of power.
Because I'm somewhere in between,
My love and my agony.
seriously, stop acting dumb.
you shouldn't take what i say to the heart; but that doesn't mean i'm wrong either.
actually, i am right. but that's nothing new with you
trying to make your posts more "sensible" now instead of the half-assed answers you used to pull?
Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
What the...??? I honestly don't get why you say these things?? I think it is good for a guy and girl to do these little things for each other just like how you would do it for your family member or friend.BUT like a lot of us have said, there is a balance. You both do them for each other. I personally don't think it is right for a girl or guy to just sit on their butt and make others do things for them without doing something back in return. Just because you don't do them does not mean that there is something wrong with someone that actually does do them.
Respect other people's opinions and views. If we learn how to do that than all of these fights and arguments will not occur.
warlock, are you trying to convince girls that they should not like and ask for nice things that guys do for them? Good luck!
"Anything you can't say NO to is your MASTER, and you are its SLAVE."
"I disapprove of what I say, but I will defend to the death my right to say it."
First of all, it is NOT just about guys doing things for girls. It is about girls doing things for guys too.... You guys make it seem like we are just defending the girls and saying that only guys should do things for girls while girls just sit there and accept all of these nice gestures. I often defend the guys too since I have 7 brothers and really hate it when their lazy wives and girlfriends just sit there and make my brothers do everything for them... My mom hates it too....
Respect other people's opinions and views. If we learn how to do that than all of these fights and arguments will not occur.
Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.