There'll always be something that triggers someone or something to hurt another. I believe you know that. As Christians, we may dealt with it different from non-believers.
Well, go ahead and pick one religion among the many religions, if you're interested. Just one -- and follow that set of "rules". Don't confused it with others.As for the living in sin part, lots of things are considered as sin by religion (Christians, Muslims, etc) but not on my part.
BTW, you might have forgotten the *levels* of sins. IMO, it's the consequences that will cost you hence God forbids.
When you're a believer, you'll still have options: a) sin away, do things at your convenience, slowly back slide then back to square one. b) try to follow the "rules" as faithfully as you can (be it difficult and against your will, per se); God will know.Examples are like divorce (as per Lucre's post), homosexuality or bisexuality (hell, even just sex for the sake of having sex is a sin), lying (while I consider myself generally truthful, I have no qualms about lying if it avoids a turn for the worse), eating meat/beef/pork/alcohol, etc.
Let's phrase it this way: If someone unconditionally loves you, unless he/she is a nuthead/absolute stalker, I will soon be touched by his/her sincerity and accept them without having it being "out of pity". If I were to give a definite 'no', I wouldn't go back to them and want them to fall in love with me again.On breaking someone's heart, I don't go out to break people's heart, but here's a what if scenario for you:
If someone you are absolutely not attracted to insist that you are their one and only, what do you do? If you reject them, you break their heart, but if you don't reject them, what can you do? For some people there is no such thing as being let down gently. Are you going to agonise over the fact that you don't love them? Or are you going to just to be with them out of pity?
It's like, if I want a religion, I'll take it now i.e seek the truth by opening up to see if the bible trully make sense to me (instead of picking up the bible as an equipment to shield off the Christians ), not at my deathbed or when I'm desperate (getting a religion when you're actually not keen in it).
When people turn to me to seek Christianity because they are in a desperate situation, I'll ask them if they have gotten an insurance. You want benefits? Hell yeah, you're looking for an insurance, not religion.
Atheists can't be possibly concern about their life afterdeath, because they are not accountable to anyone.