After a long 8 hr day at work (and funny how you don't feel tired, until you're off the clock) and you take a nap that turns into a 1 and a half hour sleep and feel so refreshed after waking up. It feels soooo good to sleep. It's like you thirst and get a cup of water to drink. That good!
I just love how you Captivate My Mind
Self reminder - Update blog more often and continue editing/writing for TOV fanfic.
Europe has no spice before the spice trade?
和諧唔係一百個人講同一番話，係一百個人有一百句唔同嘅說話，而又互相尊重 ~ - 葉梓恩
Why the hell is this song so freaking popular to Chinese ppl? You'll never have a karaoke party without someone singing it.
Originally Posted by CC
"Yesterday Once More" might be a favorite among Asians, however, because Priscilla Chan covered it at her concerts during the 1980s. She often used it as a show-closer. It's said that Ms. Chan was quite a fan of Karen Carpenter.
Today, a friend (and kind of, sort of colleague, though we don't *really* work together) whom I've known for fifteen years let me down big time.
I made a mistake and asked him for permission to do something (no unsavory thoughts, people; it was something legit related to the posting of a certain thread on a non-SPCNET message forum). He didn't like the idea. He thought it was stupid. That's OK. In retrospect, I agreed with him...it *was* stupid and I'm glad I didn't do it.
That's not what let me down: what let me down was that instead of talking to me about it in private (which he could have done), he just *had* to embarrass me in front of several other of our colleagues...as if to make an example of me. He made a big, dramatic deal about it and was quite insulting. Later, when I told him that I wasn't pleased about the way he handled it, he got all huffy and insisted that he'd handled the situation correctly.
If we hadn't been friends for fifteen years, this wouldn't be such a big deal, but I'm furious at him right now.
When I have a dispute with somebody, particularly if it's somebody I consider a friend, I make sure to discuss it with that person in private...to avoid embarrassing the person. It's an act of respect that I think we can expect from friends.
This is the second or third time in three years I've had a "friend" choose to publicly embarrass me instead of making their criticisms in private.
I think I need to find better friends, or at least more tactful ones.
I don't blame my friend for thinking my idea was stupid. It *was*, and I'm actually glad that he told me to not do it. What I don't like is the *way* he told me. He could have just discreetly told me in private, but he just *had* to be a d*ck about it and embarrass me in front of the others. What really pissed me off is when I (privately) confronted him on this, he *insisted* that he had handled it in the right way.
Fifteen years of loyal friendship got me THIS? I helped this guy get started when his website was still new and getting underway. I've spent years helping him to manage it. Now that he's almighty, powerful, and successful, I guess he doesn't need his friends anymore.
Nothing pisses me off more than disloyalty, particularly from so-called "friends." The longer the friendship, the more infuriating it is because after all that time, you'd think you'd know your friends (and they know you).
This has been bugging me all day and will likely bug me for a long time to come. Disloyalty *always* gets to me.
When I start friendships with people, I make it a point to be loyal to them. I stand by them in difficult times, and celebrate their good times.
In the end, though, most of them disappoint me. When I need *them*, they stab me in the back.
It makes me wonder sometimes why I try so hard. Maybe I should just be a d*ck like them: it'd be easier and more fair to myself than laying it out for people who don't deserve it.
Is it any wonder that I have a difficult time trusting people? It seems like my entire life, I put my faith in people whom I *should* be able to trust, only to watch one after another plunge that knife into my back.
Sometimes, people truly disgust me.
You are quite old already (hitting the BIG 4 soon?), Ken. At our age, I think we should just keep quiet. Others' mouths do not belong to us. Let them say what they want to say. Just be forgiving.
On the bright side, it's not as bad as 20 years of loyal marriage getting you a cheating spouse and divorce papers. It's not like you're married to this guy.
Originally Posted by CC