My dilemma is weighing my past friendship with this dude against the way he's treated me more recently (this is the second time he's thrown me under the bus during the past five years; I forgave him the first time, but I'm having a really hard time doing it again).
On the one hand, this was a dude who showed me a great deal of generosity and friendship fifteen, ten years ago. I haven't forgotten that, and it's that memory that has stopped me (so far) from REALLY going ballistic on him.
I was the first one to comfort him on the day his mother passed some years ago. I expected better from him than his throwing me under the bus not once, but twice.
But I *did* benefit from his generosity on several occasions many years ago, and I need to take that into consideration as well, going forward.