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    Quote Originally Posted by remember_Cedric View Post
    Yushi, you're trully good at keeping details and very clear about them. I'm impressed indeed. I'm sure being heartless is necessary in your area as some people had taken your kindness for granted. Getting too compassionate is not a wise choice... alas, I do buy sob stories sometimes. >_<
    Wah, now I sound like a heartless jerk! No wonder nobody wants ...

    That said, compassion does have its place when it comes to managing people. But when people take compassion for granted and expect it to be given in every situation regardless of magnitude and severity, that's when things get out of control.

    My boss is nice; so she gets taken for granted. I am not as nice as the boss, as I have often told staff before, so they had better not expect me to handle them as the boss does. Come to think of it, even my boss has become less nice to crappy staff!

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    Seriously need to be more authoritative and harsh before some monkeys climb over my head. Need to show I'm a no-nonsense Manager!!!
    Pick your battles (think ahead and make sure you win on evidence/authority/logic/reason) and use your ammo (enough evidence/authority/logic/reason to back up your actions) *consistently*. Then, you build a track record of your management style that people will use to gauge their interactions with you. Given time, no more monkeys would succeed in climbing over your head ... even if they tried. All the best!
    Jin Yong's Ode to Gallantry [侠客行].
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    Me: Damn! Your buddy is anal about some nonsense but [pretends to be...] so easy going about other [bull$hit] nonsense. What a self righteous d-bag!
    Brother: Well, people have preferences, sister. He's just different from you. That's not a crime.
    Me: I'm not paying for your smokes anymore.
    Brother: Okay, that guy is a prick, I agree!

    Too late! Too late! Too late! Too late! Too late, Brother!
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    Quote Originally Posted by HuangYushi View Post
    Wah, now I sound like a heartless jerk! No wonder nobody wants ...

    That said, compassion does have its place when it comes to managing people. But when people take compassion for granted and expect it to be given in every situation regardless of magnitude and severity, that's when things get out of control.

    My boss is nice; so she gets taken for granted. I am not as nice as the boss, as I have often told staff before, so they had better not expect me to handle them as the boss does. Come to think of it, even my boss has become less nice to crappy staff!
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    We are highly productive, but they say we do not have spurs on our hide.

    We are really hardworking and our wages have been stagnant for years, but it's not good enough for them and they tell us we should work better, work faster and be cheaper.

    Years ago when we could afford to have more kids and want to have more kids, they whip us into stopping at two. Now we don't want to have more kids and could not afford to have more kids, they want us to breed like rabbits.

    Whenever something good happens, it's all their credit. Whenever something bad happens, it's always because we are useless and stupid and complacent.

    We are not allowed to be concerned; any actions of concern gets you labelled as a 'whiner' and a very 'ungrateful' person.

    We are told that our wages cannot be improved because that will harm the economy, but they have no squirms in giving themselves millions of dollars in bonuses and increments because that doesn't harm the economy.

    We are told that they are paid so well because they are world-class talents, but these world-class talents are unable to tell if this island is landlocked or waterlocked.

    We were made to believe for years that we are a nation, only to be told repeatedly in recent years that we are not a nation, and then rewinding to say we are a nation. So are we, or are we not?

    We are told that we have poor genes, because our forefathers were peasants. The fact that our forefathers were the ones who made this into the place it is was neglected... because the credit belongs to them, the 'royalties'.

    They claim to be operating at Asian values, but those supposedly 'Asian' values are really their own personal values for their own personal gain. Wish people would stop buying into it.

    This can be quite a miserable place... only because they are making it into a miserable place.

    From now on I shall stop calling this place Singapore, because I realise they were at least right in the point that this isn't a country; it's a corporate. I shall now address it as Singapore Inc.

    If I disappear from SPCNET for too long, maybe it's because I've been invited by the ISD for kopi for writing all these; the law allows them to detain people for extended period without trial.

    PS. Ceddy you may add more to it if you like.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ByTmE View Post
    ^^presses imaginary "like" button!
    lol you're cute, my lovely!

    Quote Originally Posted by HuangYushi View Post
    Wah, now I sound like a heartless jerk! No wonder nobody wants ...
    No, don't get me wrong. I don't mean it in a negative way. I should say, you're clear-minded when dealing with issues of various sorts in which I'm impressed.

    Nobody wants....? Eh? :-?

    That said, compassion does have its place when it comes to managing people. But when people take compassion for granted and expect it to be given in every situation regardless of magnitude and severity, that's when things get out of control.

    My boss is nice; so she gets taken for granted. I am not as nice as the boss, as I have often told staff before, so they had better not expect me to handle them as the boss does. Come to think of it, even my boss has become less nice to crappy staff!

    Pick your battles (think ahead and make sure you win on evidence/authority/logic/reason) and use your ammo (enough evidence/authority/logic/reason to back up your actions) *consistently*. Then, you build a track record of your management style that people will use to gauge their interactions with you. Given time, no more monkeys would succeed in climbing over your head ... even if they tried. All the best!
    I seriously need to learn and take that into practice.

    Quote Originally Posted by Guo Xiang View Post
    We are highly productive, but they say we do not have spurs on our hide.

    We are really hardworking and our wages have been stagnant for years, but it's not good enough for them and they tell us we should work better, work faster and be cheaper.

    Years ago when we could afford to have more kids and want to have more kids, they whip us into stopping at two. Now we don't want to have more kids and could not afford to have more kids, they want us to breed like rabbits.

    Whenever something good happens, it's all their credit. Whenever something bad happens, it's always because we are useless and stupid and complacent.

    We are not allowed to be concerned; any actions of concern gets you labelled as a 'whiner' and a very 'ungrateful' person.

    We are told that our wages cannot be improved because that will harm the economy, but they have no squirms in giving themselves millions of dollars in bonuses and increments because that doesn't harm the economy.

    We are told that they are paid so well because they are world-class talents, but these world-class talents are unable to tell if this island is landlocked or waterlocked.

    We were made to believe for years that we are a nation, only to be told repeatedly in recent years that we are not a nation, and then rewinding to say we are a nation. So are we, or are we not?

    We are told that we have poor genes, because our forefathers were peasants. The fact that our forefathers were the ones who made this into the place it is was neglected... because the credit belongs to them, the 'royalties'.

    They claim to be operating at Asian values, but those supposedly 'Asian' values are really their own personal values for their own personal gain. Wish people would stop buying into it.

    This can be quite a miserable place... only because they are making it into a miserable place.

    From now on I shall stop calling this place Singapore, because I realise they were at least right in the point that this isn't a country; it's a corporate. I shall now address it as Singapore Inc.

    If I disappear from SPCNET for too long, maybe it's because I've been invited by the ISD for kopi for writing all these; the law allows them to detain people for extended period without trial.

    PS. Ceddy you may add more to it if you like.
    Thanks for the summary of their sins. I have no further comments at the moment til my passion (to bash them) gets ignited..... again. Right now, busy making money to pay taxes as salary for a bunch of fools.

    *where's Kay's signature nose-picking smiley when I need it?*

    BTW, my dear, nothing should happen to you til your words have the power to gather a bunch of supporters. Only then they can effectively sue you for "talking" without license.

    Quote Originally Posted by ByTmE View Post
    Me: Damn! Your buddy is anal about some nonsense but [pretends to be...] so easy going about other [bull$hit] nonsense. What a self righteous d-bag!
    Brother: Well, people have preferences, sister. He's just different from you. That's not a crime.
    Me: I'm not paying for your smokes anymore.
    Brother: Okay, that guy is a prick, I agree!

    Too late! Too late! Too late! Too late! Too late, Brother!
    LOL Your brother is funny and rather witty, my dear The whole convo is funny!
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    Some things are not smooth recently. hope everything turn up fine in the end.

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    Why can't a guy and a girl just be friends?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Suzaku View Post
    Why can't a guy and a girl just be friends?
    Why not?
    One issue settled. 7 more issues to go. Some are small and trival though.

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    Quote Originally Posted by remember_Cedric View Post
    No, don't get me wrong. I don't mean it in a negative way. I should say, you're clear-minded when dealing with issues of various sorts in which I'm impressed.

    I seriously need to learn and take that into practice.
    It's not that hard. Here's a tip: If the person has a incorrigible heck-care attitude towards his/her job, you as the supervisor can also have a heck-care attitude towards the person. Then, emotions are put aside, and the person is evaluated on his/her contribution (or serious lack of it) towards the team, the project and/or the company.

    Of course, being old(er) and having a wider range/variety of experience in various corporate posts is also helpful.

    Therefore, so long as you have all the above somewhere in the back of your mind, and keep on learning/practising, one day, some day, you'll also become old(er) and (more) ruthless, just like others before you.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Suzaku View Post
    Why can't a guy and a girl just be friends?
    I have great guy friends. And I'm not ugly or fat.
    I like me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ByTmE View Post
    I have great guy friends. And I'm not ugly or fat.
    maybe they already have girlsfriends or are just in to you. However very often it will not work because one party might start to develop romantic feeling for the other party. and it's hard to just a guy and a girl to hang out unless it's with a larger group since chinese people would just assume that you are dating...

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    So annoyed with those natural health practitioners who diss modern medicine and promote all kind of natural products as replacement like they know what they are talking about. If patients can eat fish oil, omega 3, Vitamin D & B, to get better or meditate/think themselves out of depression, they wouldn't have gone for medication. They would not be suffering from clinical depression. Damn fake doctors spewing nonsense! And don't go spew nonsense about modern medicine when your fact and knowledge are outdated and don't use the Dr. in front of your name if you are just got doctorate degree and not an MD. It is very misleading.
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    Quote Originally Posted by kidd View Post
    . . . don't use the Dr. in front of your name if you are just got doctorate degree and not an MD. It is very misleading.
    So long as you have a doctorate degree, isn't it true that one can have a "Dr" initial in front of the name?

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    Quote Originally Posted by wkeej View Post
    So long as you have a doctorate degree, isn't it true that one can have a "Dr" initial in front of the name?
    Yes, if you have a doctorate you have the right to use the title. But, if you only have a Doctorate in English Literature and you give medical/health advice under the title Dr. XXX, that's misleading. People will believe that you know what you are talking about because they assume that you are a medical doctor base on your 'Dr'.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Exodus View Post
    maybe they already have girlsfriends or are just in to you. However very often it will not work because one party might start to develop romantic feeling for the other party. and it's hard to just a guy and a girl to hang out unless it's with a larger group since chinese people would just assume that you are dating...
    Hmmm.....let me think. I personally have not developed any feelings for them, and I used that as the marker for how guys and girls can be friends...because I know me best. One of them dates other girls yes, but he and I had a platonic relationship during the periods he was single too. I don't just hang out with other Asian people lol I'm sorry that the Chinese people that you know make such assumptions.

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    was listening to jay chou's curse of the golden pillow. still pondering who is in the wrong. but i think "jay chou" being a general make a very big and stupid mistake, which is not realistic. How can a general send in all the troops in one advance? Never never.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ByTmE View Post
    Hmmm.....let me think. I personally have not developed any feelings for them, and I used that as the marker for how guys and girls can be friends...because I know me best. One of them dates other girls yes, but he and I had a platonic relationship during the periods he was single too. I don't just hang out with other Asian people lol I'm sorry that the Chinese people that you know make such assumptions.

    I can be your friend
    Perhaps your guy friends that are not attractive LOL. Assuming you are single ofcourse. I especially asian girls only hang out with guys that they are attracted to.

    Yeah let's be friends

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    Quote Originally Posted by ByTmE View Post
    Hmmm.....let me think. I personally have not developed any feelings for them, and I used that as the marker for how guys and girls can be friends...because I know me best. One of them dates other girls yes, but he and I had a platonic relationship during the periods he was single too. I don't just hang out with other Asian people lol I'm sorry that the Chinese people that you know make such assumptions.

    I can be your friend
    i agree. never in a million yearssss would i get with some guy friends of mines. once i've put u in a "friends-only" zone, you're pretty much there for good. it doesn't matter if they're willing to go above and beyond for me, either haha. just no
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    Quote Originally Posted by kay &!* View Post
    i agree. never in a million yearssss would i get with some guy friends of mines. once i've put u in a "friends-only" zone, you're pretty much there for good. it doesn't matter if they're willing to go above and beyond for me, either haha. just no
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