so my friends and I were having a discussion of 'when' do you know that you are 'official' with someone while you guys are dating. My girl and I said that when you date someone.. you start off as friends, and then you start hanging out more often (the 'crushing' stage), then you will start going on dates, and THEN the talk will come up whether or not you guys should be an 'item', 'exclusive', etc. and thing is, during the 'dating' stage, you are allowed to date other ppl.
but my other friends (guys) said that there are no stages and they have never had to ask the girl to be 'their gf'.. you just 'know'.. once you start seeing each other so often, holding hands, kissing, and doing couple things. so its like.. friends.. then dating/relationship is the same thing and you're not allowed to date others.
any of you guys have inputs on this? how did you guys come about to be 'official' or know when?
i'm currently dating this guy, and he has the same mentality of my guy friends. he's been assuming that we are bf/gf the whole time but i thought we were just 'seeing' each other.. i.e i still considered myself 'single'. i expected him to ask me to be his gf soon but i guess he didn't realize that until we had that discussion yday. to be honest, i don't really care whether he asks or not.. it's just something i had always thought was the RIGHT way? lol. so we would at least have a date for anniv..
we basically started off as friends until he started to like me.. i was unsure about him so i kept him as friends zone for the longest time. then i realized i liked him back so we hooked up (kissed) one night and after that night, he assumed we were bf/gf but i thought we were still in the 'dating' stage.. still is? LOL. told him the only way we'll be official now is if he surprises me somehow since i HAD to tell him to do it... doing that to make him work for it, i'm not that easy pft hahah yes, i'm being complicated! but i also am taking it lightly because at the end of the day, i know he makes me happy and it doesn't really matter since i don't mind.
just wanted to hear what you guys think?