Hmm, I think we're starting to diverge into two different topics in our discussion. Maybe I got lost within all the long posts, but I thought the discussion was about whether it was "heroic" to sacrifice a loved one (meaning letting that loved one die) for the better of the country? I don't think a man should hide like a coward with his wife while everyone around him burns. If he wants to risk his own safety to help the burning victims, then he is very brave and heroic. But if he wants to sacrifice his wife's life so he can save the people burning around him, then he's more horrific than the guy who set the fire in the first place.
Strange that you bring up this analogy. I've always found Yeung Gor annoying, but his one redeeming quality is his willingness to put Little Dragon Girl's wishes and well-being above all else, including country. Kwok Jing, while undeniably heroic to his country, fails as a husband and father, because he never will put family first ahead of country. If given a choice, he will choose country and let his family die. Such a man is very lofty and admirable to the millions of citizens he protects, but I would never want such a man as my husband. He can be someone else's husband. I am just a simple woman, one who wants a nice man whom I can count on. He should certainly help others if he is able to, but if he needs to let me die in order to help others, then the selfish part of me wants him to think of me first. I hope I don't come off sounding incredibly despicable for saying this.

I'm really a nice person who has the heart of a good samaritan, so please don't boycott my story because of this discussion of "loved one vs country."
