No *sexual* abuse, no. Psychological/emotional abuse of a less extreme/sick kind, yes, but sexual...no. Nothing they did would be even remotely considered illegal. Whether or not it was immoral is a different issue.
Parents knew. Didn't take it seriously. That was a huge part of the problem: none of the adults who could have intervened took it seriously.
So out of the six of you, are you the youngest? I remember when I was younger, my sister and cousins would leave me out of everything. They are all at least 4 years older than I so none of them would want to play with me. It sucked being the youngest then.
Wow, and this whole time I thought you were born in the mid to late 80s.
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No, I was the *oldest*, but only by a little. Karen is half a year younger than I, and Ellen, almost a full year. Julie and Tricia are five years younger than I, and Tina is eight years younger.
But I was the only boy in the group, and when all this went down, we were on *their* home turf (Seattle, Washington), not mine (Los Angeles, California). Age was no advantage. I was outnumbered and on "the enemy's" home turf, and the enemy leader had the edge on me in aggression (by a mile).
The only "advantage" I had was that I was smarter, but it didn't help much under those circumstances. I lacked the experience to make effective use of the smarts I had, and it might not have helped anyway because you can't reason with the unreasonable.
No, I was born in 1972...either a week before or after Watergate started.Wow, and this whole time I thought you were born in the mid to late 80s.
Sigh, where is justice?
http://www.abc.net.au/news/stories/2...10/3062909.htm
什麼是朋友?朋友永遠是在你犯下不可原諒錯誤的時候,仍舊站在你那邊的笨蛋。~ 王亞瑟
和諧唔係一百個人講同一番話,係一百個人有一百句唔同嘅說話,而又互相尊重 ~ - 葉梓恩
ken cheng- u have me curious now. btw 6 sisters?! i'd love to have a family like that :P or 6 brothers.. i have 3 bros, don't mind 3 more hahaaa
Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
Well, they were my cousins, not my sisters. Different groups of two and three of them were sisters.
I'm an only child. In elementary/high school, I was also targeted as one of the school geeks/nerds. That, in combination with my cousins, did not exactly bode well for my emotional health at a young age.
Ken, possibly I can understand you. When I was in teens, I was always left out in many gatherings/get-togethers. That may have accounted my reserve nature in later years. Anyway, take care.
Almost the deadline...almost the deadline...almost the deadline.
I like me.
True, no one can really truly comprehend the scope of what happened to you, but you.
But you're blaming your problems on something that happened 25 years ago, and you take no responsibility for the choices you made since then? You cannot change what happened to you in the past. You can only change how you perceive or make peace with the events.
Your cousins aren't the blame for your problems - you are.
If they hadn't knocked the first domino down, then everything else that happened afterwards would have happened very differently.
Even in the Judeo-Christian Bible, God didn't say to Adam and Eve, "It's all your fault, ONLY." God punished them, but God also punished the serpent who misled them.
I don't mind taking my share of the responsibility, but I'll be damned if I take it alone. *I've* suffered the consequences for the past twenty-five years while the people who started this got away with NOTHING.
How is that fair?
Life twenty years ago seems better.
ohh. so overall verbal abuse that took a toll on your emotional and mental health ey.
i think karma will get to them sooner or later 'cause i was on the same boat people, including cousins of mines, would put me down all the time.. def affected my mental well-being growing up been called a loser, dork, ugly, idiot, etc... now look at me, everyone tries to be my friend
haha
but in all seriousness with your situation though, you can't dwell on something 25 years back. i'm sure there are some things that if you think about, it'd still hurt/piss you off but it's either you let it go and get on with life or find a way to deal with it.. confront them is one way. no use in saying how much pain you're in on here when they're the root of problems.
Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.