[kidd]

http://www.divaasia.com/article/5277

Husbands don't trust their wives
Thu, Sep 24, 2009
China Daily/Asia News Network

A leading Beijing paternity testing center says up to 30 percent of tested men were not the biological fathers of their children.

The Forensic Science Center of Beijing Genomics Institute, which has 19 offices across China, said there had been a 20 percent annual increase of paternity tests since it was founded in 2002.

A clinic worker surnamed Wu said 30 percent of tested men at the clinic had not fathered their child, and that the real proportion could be higher.

"Actually, some couples coming here for the tests are not married in real life. The 'husband' that confirmed a biological father of the child is indeed the woman's lover."

Beijing Chaoyang Hospital's paternity test center also reported a sharp increase in paternity tests.

When it was founded in 2000, the clinic conducted a dozen tests. Last year, more than 600 paternity tests were carried out, said Xiao Bai, who is in charge of the center.

Wu said paternity tests were on the rise as more suspicious Beijing husbands are checking on their wives' fidelity.

He said the center conducted more than 3,000 paternity tests last year, 20 percent higher than last year.

"It always happens after the husband finds out their wives are having an extramarital affair," Wu said.

And it is not just husbands who are insisting on the test.

The number of women opting for prenatal paternity testing has also shot up in recent years. "They want to know whose baby they are carrying," Wu said.

"If the husband discovers he is not the biological father, it is divorce or abortion."

Over the past decade paternity testing technology has advanced and Beijing now has nearly 20 testing centers.

The test costs between 1,000 to 1,200 yuan ($146 - 176) per person, and the results are ready within a week.

"There would be more people coming here if the cost of the tests become lower," said one unnamed worker from a Beijing biotech company.

The worker said typical clients are aged in their 30s, well-educated and with a good job.

"Usually, couples begin to drift apart as a result of different work locations or frequent business, then husbands begin to doubt their wives' fidelity," she said.

Sociology specialist Wang Xing attributed the increase of paternity tests to the loss of the loyalty within marriage.

"With the society more open and diverse, social attitudes and behavior towards sex and family seems to become relaxed and casual. Nowadays, casual sex or one-night stands are no novelty, marriage and family become vulnerable and people lose confidence in a loyal marriage," he said.

"In China, most families have only one child, if it turns out that the child is another man's baby, that may be a disaster for the family.

"Suspicious husbands check on their wives' fidelity through paternity tests also suggests that Chinese husbands require chastity and complete loyalty from their wives.

"But under the open-minded situation, the expectation of total loyalty from a wife might just be too high," Wang said.

Adults really should be more responsible. When these things happen, the one who suffer are the kids.

[Guo Xiang]

I wonder how many of those men were faithful husbands?

[jiang bao]

Is China still hush hush on sex education? You’d figure they’d maybe pass out some free condoms or some jack like that. People are gonna cheat with or without them. Might as well provide some freebies.

[Trien Chieu]

I support the husband's decision to find out the truth. If the child is not his, I support his decision to divorce the wife and abandon the baby. It's greatest injustice for man to raise another man child and thinking that child is his.

[Candide]

First time in my life I find myself agreeing with TC.

Similar rate (in paternity testing) is recorded in the West, btw. In fact, IIRC, clinics & researchers in the UK and Australia were pretty much silenced by academia and the media for fear of causing an uproar, as their data were showing some terrible truths.

[Trinie]

This really reminds me of the Jerry Springer show since they often have shows about this topic. The women go on and say that they have cheated on their husbands and confess that their children may not be his, he gets really devastated and then they demand to have paternity test... The father is happy to learn if the children are actually his, but still sad since his "wife" cheated on him.... BUt if the children are not his, then he just leaves... Really sad and tragic. I wonder why people even get married at all if they know that they cannot remain faithful to one person(that goes for both men and women)???

[Yeung Gor]

I am reminded of a story I heard on a radio about a man who can't have children, so he ask his neighbor if he would have sex with his wife to impregnate her. The neighbor would also be paid for his service. The wife also happens to be a formal model so it's seems to be a great offer for the neighbor. The neighbor got his wife's consent to do it. So he tries for six months, and fail to impregnate her. The man can't figure out why his wife isn't pregnant by now so he ask the neighbor to go get his sperm tested. So the neighbor agrees and the doctor comes back and said the neighbor is sterile and can't make babies. The neighbor was dumb struck as he has kids of his own, but the doctor said that's impossible. So the neighbor finds out his wife had an affair. Those two children of his were not his. The man who hire him to impregnate his wife went to court to try and get the money back.

[Guo Xiang]

Originally Posted by Yeung Gor

I am reminded of a story I heard on a radio about a man who can't have children, so he ask his neighbor if he would have sex with his wife to impregnate her. The neighbor would also be paid for his service. The wife also happens to be a formal model so it's seems to be a great offer for the neighbor. The neighbor got his wife's consent to do it. So he tries for six months, and fail to impregnate her. The man can't figure out why his wife isn't pregnant by now so he ask the neighbor to go get his sperm tested. So the neighbor agrees and the doctor comes back and said the neighbor is sterile and can't make babies. The neighbor was dumb struck as he has kids of his own, but the doctor said that's impossible. So the neighbor finds out his wife had an affair. Those two children of his were not his. The man who hire him to impregnate his wife went to court to try and get the money back.

This is too funny.

[GuGu]

Originally Posted by Yeung Gor

I am reminded of a story I heard on a radio about a man who can't have children, so he ask his neighbor if he would have sex with his wife to impregnate her. The neighbor would also be paid for his service. The wife also happens to be a formal model so it's seems to be a great offer for the neighbor. The neighbor got his wife's consent to do it. So he tries for six months, and fail to impregnate her. The man can't figure out why his wife isn't pregnant by now so he ask the neighbor to go get his sperm tested. So the neighbor agrees and the doctor comes back and said the neighbor is sterile and can't make babies. The neighbor was dumb struck as he has kids of his own, but the doctor said that's impossible. So the neighbor finds out his wife had an affair. Those two children of his were not his. The man who hire him to impregnate his wife went to court to try and get the money back.

you know what would be worse? if the dude that got his wife pregnant was actually his neighbor that hired him! hahaha

[Trinie]

Originally Posted by Yeung Gor

I am reminded of a story I heard on a radio about a man who can't have children, so he ask his neighbor if he would have sex with his wife to impregnate her. The neighbor would also be paid for his service. The wife also happens to be a formal model so it's seems to be a great offer for the neighbor. The neighbor got his wife's consent to do it. So he tries for six months, and fail to impregnate her. The man can't figure out why his wife isn't pregnant by now so he ask the neighbor to go get his sperm tested. So the neighbor agrees and the doctor comes back and said the neighbor is sterile and can't make babies. The neighbor was dumb struck as he has kids of his own, but the doctor said that's impossible. So the neighbor finds out his wife had an affair. Those two children of his were not his. The man who hire him to impregnate his wife went to court to try and get the money back.

Oh my goodness! I wonder if that is even a true story?? I once saw the movie "Never Forever" where a women's husband became sterile, so she paid a guy to have sex with her to get her pregneant. She eventually became pregneant and fell in love, but her husband found out and forced her to abort the baby... She refused to and I think she still had that baby in the end... Not sure about the final ending since it was an open ending...

[Yeung Gor]

Originally Posted by Trinie

Oh my goodness! I wonder if that is even a true story?? I once saw the movie "Never Forever" where a women's husband became sterile, so she paid a guy to have sex with her to get her pregneant. She eventually became pregneant and fell in love, but her husband found out and forced her to abort the baby... She refused to and I think she still had that baby in the end... Not sure about the final ending since it was an open ending...

True story, here is the link to the story from Yahoo News

http://uk.news.yahoo.com/blog/editor...article/26357/

[tweety365]

Originally Posted by Yeung Gor

True story, here is the link to the story from Yahoo News

http://uk.news.yahoo.com/blog/editor...article/26357/

That story is just so messed up that I'm speechless

Regarding the original topic, cheating on your partner is a repulsive act, but if you are going to have an affair, at least have the brains to use protection.