Originally Posted by
Candide
I started reading Water Margin (possibly the most violent book ever written), Journey To The West (which is full of man-eating demons) and Romance of the Three Kingdoms (man cooking wife, general swallowing his own eyes, etc.) at the ripe old age of 5, so 5 is the appropiate age. While they aren't officially recognised as wuxia, Water Margin is very much a wuxia story, except that it has more heroes than the usual wuxia, little to no romance and no inner power.
In fact I had this discussion with my parents yesterday in a half serious manner, blaming them for exposing me to violent books and movies as a child. The thing is, it's not what the child reads or watches, it's who's there to explain things to him/her and whether the explanations are good or poor. My parents were always there to explain things to me and their explanations were always the full version, not the stupid-kid-doesn't-know-much cut-down one. While most of it flew over my head, I didn't wrongly associate them with other things, because they sounded different. Telling children half-truths is very dangerous. An example of that is the kid who hanged himself recently for being called "a bad person" after his dad explained to him that Saddam Hussein was hanged because he was "a bad person". In general, it will lead to the child having a screwed up image of the world he/she lives in which will take a lot of unlearning and a huge waste of time as he/she grows up (that is if he/she ever realises it at all).
Another very interesting thing we drew from that conversation is that none of us (myself and my parents) ever thought of Water Margin, for example, as a violent book. Mum and dad both read it when they were little kids, or rather, their fathers read (and explained) it to them. When we think of Water Margin, we think of the same thing: xia, loyalty, honour, sacrifice, brotherhood, etc. i.e its message is one of great qualities - values that children should definitely learn about as soon as possible. None of us realised that it has quite a lot of violence (my parents were very surprised when I mentioned it), because the main message is so strong that it overrides all others. I accept the violence in those stories as a fact of life. They were written in a period of wars and conflicts and in wars, people kill each other and chop heads off. It's that simple.
However, most modern books/comics/movies, while trying their best to sidestep violence, sex etc. just enough to avoid the PC brigade and the law, actually subtly (or not so subtly) use those to sell themselves, due to the taboo factor and natural human curiosity. What children will learn from those will be, not surprisingly, exactly those, as the moral values they seem to tell are just too thin and vague that the kids couldn't care less about them and can't remember any. I remember that my parents (and other older folks) used to ask me what I think of a book or a particular chapter I just read, and what I've learnt from it. Although my views were very simple back then, I did manage to learn a thing or two. What do kids these days say when they're asked the same thing about the comic or movie they just read or watched? Usually it's something along the line of "it's fun" or "it's cool'. For them it's all about entertainment and not much else.