In the Romance of the Three Kingdoms, Liu Bei, the founding emperor of the Kingdom of Shu said: "妻子如衣服, 兄弟如手足" - Lovers/Wives and Children are just as clothing, while brothers are as limbs.
That statement became well-known and has been used widely. In some wuxia novels that I've read, several characters did consider ther wives, sons, daughters and disciples as clothing. To them, brotherhood was the most important sentiment.
For example:
1. In Sentimental Swordsman Emotionless Sword, Little Li Flying Dagger conceded his lover Lin Shiyin and all his property to his sworn brother Long Xiaoyun. That act resulted in those 3 having lived in grief for ~ 15 years or so.
2. In Xiao Ao Jiang Hu, the little martial brother of Xiao Xiang Ya Yu Mr Mo Da, Liu Zhengfeng, a person whose both zither techniques and swordsmanship reached the level of perfection, sacrificed all his family, his disciples and even himself to protect the sworn brotherhood between him and Qu Lingfeng, an Elder of the Sun Moon Devine Sect.
Do you agree with them?
If you were a wuxia person, which sentiment would you treasure more? (Love + Family) or Brotherhood?
IMHO, I dislike the way Li Xunhuan and Liu Zhengfeng valued their lovers and family less than their sworn brothers.