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    What are the reasons why some people choose to marry someone of the same sex?

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    I assume it's the same reason people marry those of the opposite gender: you meet someone, date them, fall in love (though this one doesn't always happen, unfortunately), and want to be together and decide to get married.
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    They love each other and want to spend the rest of their lives with each other.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jaded WenEr View Post
    I assume it's the same reason people marry those of the opposite gender: you meet someone, date them, fall in love (though this one doesn't always happen, unfortunately), and want to be together and decide to get married.
    Well sadly, these days arranged marriages still exist. Some people just get married just to get married, not for love or anything.. They just feel their biological clock is ticking and have to get married before it is too late. One of my friends did just that...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Trinie View Post
    Well sadly, these days arranged marriages still exist. Some people just get married just to get married, not for love or anything.. They just feel their biological clock is ticking and have to get married before it is too late. One of my friends did just that...
    Well, I don't think that's why same sex couples get married (the reproducing thing doesn't quite work the same way for them).

    In fact, I can probably bet that arranged marriages occur more among heterosexual couples than same sex couples.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jaded WenEr View Post
    Well, I don't think that's why same sex couples get married (the reproducing thing doesn't quite work the same way for them).

    In fact, I can probably bet that arranged marriages occur more among heterosexual couples than same sex couples.
    Oh yea, that is true.... I guess same sex couples may get married more for the companionship type of love... But hey, since we are not them, we do not really know.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Trinie View Post
    Oh yea, that is true.... I guess same sex couples may get married more for the companionship type of love... But hey, since we are not them, we do not really know.
    yeah, i don't think most same sex couples get married for "companionship." they are fully capable of being in romantic love, and even, gasp! having sex.
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    Quote Originally Posted by pemberly View Post
    yeah, i don't think most same sex couples get married for "companionship." they are fully capable of being in romantic love, and even, gasp! having sex.
    I guess that I still don't understand the same sex type of relationships...
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    Quote Originally Posted by pemberly View Post
    yeah, i don't think most same sex couples get married for "companionship." they are fully capable of being in romantic love, and even, gasp! having sex.
    I sometimes feel that same sex couples have a much better understanding of love and romance than many heterosexual couples, simply because of all the hardships they have to go through.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jaded WenEr View Post
    I sometimes feel that same sex couples have a much better understanding of love and romance than many heterosexual couples, simply because of all the hardships they have to go through.
    i guess it depends on the couple, just like heterosexual ones. i know a gay guy who has these brief superficial relationships. to me, i don't think there is much difference between same sex and different sex couples. some are committed and some are.... not. there are plenty of heterosexual couples who go through many hardships as well.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Trinie View Post
    I guess that I still don't understand the same sex type of relationships...
    Well, these people feel, love, and lust just like anybody healthy person; the only difference is, they are attracted and emotionally bonded to the same gender rather than with the opposite sex.

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    Quote Originally Posted by pemberly View Post
    i guess it depends on the couple, just like heterosexual ones. i know a gay guy who has these brief superficial relationships. to me, i don't think there is much difference between same sex and different sex couples. some are committed and some are.... not. there are plenty of heterosexual couples who go through many hardships as well.
    That's true. I guess I'm just speaking based on my experience with people I know.
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    The possibility of marriage remains distant for most of the gay community. Therefore, I will only speak of "same-sex relationships."

    One who has witnessed gay love can appreciate the little things lovers do such as holding hands and displaying affection in public; these are the benefits that most straight people have at their fingertips which are, in many cases, not available to the gay community. Whereas most straight people in love can feel free to hold hands in public, gay people in love are not welcomed by society to do the same.

    That is why, when a gay person has the chance to express his/her love to his/her partner, by the modest means of their palms touching, in broad daylight without worrying about their safety, it is such a precious moment--an extraordinary novelty.

    In some ways, I prefer same-sex relationships: you have to fight hard to have it, which really makes you appreciate what you have.
    Last edited by PJ; 04-28-09 at 11:46 PM.
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    Quote Originally Posted by PJ View Post
    The possibility of marriage remains distant for most of the gay community. Therefore, I will only speak of "same-sex relationships."

    One who has witnessed gay love can appreciate the little things lovers do such as holding hands and displaying affection in public; these are the benefits that most straight people have at their fingertips which are, in many cases, not available to the gay community. Whereas most straight people in love can feel free to hold hands in public, gay people in love are not welcomed by society to do the same.

    That is why, when a gay person has the chance to express his/her love to his/her partner, by the modest means of their palms touching, in broad daylight without worrying about their safety, it is such a precious moment--an extraordinary novelty.

    In some ways, I prefer same-sex relationships: you have to fight hard to have it, so if/when you do have it, you really treasure it.
    i probably have a sunnier view of same sex relationships since i'm from boston, and we're pretty accepting here. same sex couples walk down the streets and suck face on the subway all the time.
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    Quote Originally Posted by pemberly View Post
    i probably have a sunnier view of same sex relationships since i'm from boston, and we're pretty accepting here. same sex couples walk down the streets and suck face on the subway all the time.
    Boston is indeed a great city
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    The interesting thing that I figured out about same-sex relationships is that I actually LOVE the fact that it's not accepted everywhere. Sometimes you have to conceal that part of you in public, while other times you have to stand up for your belief. This constant struggle is what makes same-sex relationships more precious and meaningful.

    Certainly, if society were to progress such that same-sex relationships can become commonplace in most places, that is a good thing; and I thank the individuals who fight, and dream, for that day. And yet, I feel that the current state of affairs, where gay people are semi-accepted but still face significant challenges, can be a truly rewarding experience for those who have the chance to participate.
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    Quote Originally Posted by PJ View Post
    The possibility of marriage remains distant for most of the gay community. Therefore, I will only speak of "same-sex relationships."

    One who has witnessed gay love can appreciate the little things lovers do such as holding hands and displaying affection in public; these are the benefits that most straight people have at their fingertips which are, in many cases, not available to the gay community. Whereas most straight people in love can feel free to hold hands in public, gay people in love are not welcomed by society to do the same.

    That is why, when a gay person has the chance to express his/her love to his/her partner, by the modest means of their palms touching, in broad daylight without worrying about their safety, it is such a precious moment--an extraordinary novelty.

    In some ways, I prefer same-sex relationships: you have to fight hard to have it, which really makes you appreciate what you have.
    I see to that, Long'er.

    What's your POV on distant relationship?

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    Quote Originally Posted by remember_Cedric View Post
    What's your POV on distant relationship?
    Avoid as much as possible

    Actually, I do have some thoughts about distance and how it may help rejuvenate stale relationships. But I'll save that for another topic.
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    Buh the way, for the sake of ARTS:

    Same sex marriages.
    Well, that's certainly a boring sex life. How can they be satisfied with the same sex all the time? What diminished their curiosity to undertake new positions once in a while?

    click to show/hide spoilers
    Same sex marriage = marriage where you have the same kind of sex all the time
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    Quote Originally Posted by PJ View Post
    Buh the way, for the sake of ARTS:



    Well, that's certainly a boring sex life. How can they be satisfied with the same sex all the time? What diminished their curiosity to undertake new positions once in a while?

    click to show/hide spoilers
    Same sex marriage = marriage where you have the same kind of sex all the time
    you mean like back in the days when they "banned" everything not missionary?

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