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    Ok, let put it this way.
    Yes, cooking at home indeed save you money and the food is healthier and more delicious. However, for relationship, being a good cook is a bonus but there other things that are way more important. I can live with instant noodle with ground pork and/or ham/turkey sandwich. For me, a good looking face is much more important than being a good cook.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Trien Chieu View Post
    Ok, let put it this way.
    Yes, cooking at home indeed save you money and the food is healthier and more delicious. However, for relationship, being a good cook is a bonus but there other things that are way more important. I can live with instant noodle with ground pork and/or ham/turkey sandwich. For me, a good looking face is much more important than being a good cook.
    Well...just as a reminder...the face goes away soon...but the cooking skills will only grow better.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ren Wo Xing View Post
    Well...just as a reminder...the face goes away soon...but the cooking skills will only grow better.
    Plus living on a diet other than instant noodles and sandwiches will probably allow you to have a longer span, so you can look at the pretty face for longer.
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    i think being a good cook isn't as important as being willing to try. his/her food can be all burnt and taste like poo, but if he/she tries his/her hardest, it's the thought that counts...assuming the person is smart enough to be able to improve gradually over time. :P
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    Quote Originally Posted by pemberly View Post
    i think being a good cook isn't as important as being willing to try. his/her food can be all burnt and taste like poo, but if he/she tries his/her hardest, it's the thought that counts...assuming the person is smart enough to be able to improve gradually over time. :P
    Yeah, if they aren't improving over time, thought alone isn't going to make the burnt food taste any better...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Trien Chieu View Post
    Those guys are losers. This is 21st century, who care about cooking. You always can all kinds of great food at the restaurants. Cooking doesn't save you much anyway.

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    Ok, let put it this way.
    Yes, cooking at home indeed save you money and the food is healthier and more delicious. However, for relationship, being a good cook is a bonus but there other things that are way more important. I can live with instant noodle with ground pork and/or ham/turkey sandwich.
    TC, first thing first, what is above "cost saving"? Ans: The interaction and time spent in a kitchen between a couple is priceless.

    I'm more than certain to say, never in your life have you spent such quality time with an important someone. You're missing out BIG TIME, mister!

    For me, a good looking face is much more important than being a good cook.
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    Quote Originally Posted by pemberly View Post
    i think being a good cook isn't as important as being willing to try. his/her food can be all burnt and taste like poo, but if he/she tries his/her hardest, it's the thought that counts...assuming the person is smart enough to be able to improve gradually over time. :P
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ren Wo Xing View Post
    Yeah, if they aren't improving over time, thought alone isn't going to make the burnt food taste any better...
    We must see whether the interest is there, if he/she is cooking just for the sake of cooking something, then obviously there won't be improvements.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Extremer88 View Post
    We must see whether the interest is there, if he/she is cooking just for the sake of cooking something, then obviously there won't be improvements.
    I agree. It's alot of observation of its timing, taste, ingredients "matching" and all. I love to cooked tomatoes and spices in my food, it's appetitizing. My style of cooking would be ideas extracted from turkish style.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Extremer88 View Post
    For guys, can you accept ladies who can't cook?
    No, sorry.

    For a serious long-term relationship, she has to be able to cook. I need to eat, and I can't be the one cooking and cleaning all the time, since as Candide has said (and I agree), if she can't cook, she probably can't clean either.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ren Wo Xing View Post
    Yeah, if they aren't improving over time, thought alone isn't going to make the burnt food taste any better...
    Yeah....I should know. One of my auntie-in-laws is like this. She cooks very often, but she never improves. Sometimes I'd wish she'd stop trying.



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    Cooking is also important in the longer term if/when we become parents and need to feed our children. Children have to be well and eat healthily but you'd also want them prefer home cooking to fast food.
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    Quote Originally Posted by HuangYushi View Post
    No, sorry.

    For a serious long-term relationship, she has to be able to cook. I need to eat, and I can't be the one cooking and cleaning all the time, since as Candide has said (and I agree), if she can't cook, she probably can't clean either.

    btw, I cook ... very well.
    On the other hand, I certainly hope you do not expect your partner to be the one cooking and cleaning all the time.
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    i don't think that someone who can't cook won't necessarily clean. on the contrary, some ppl would much rather clean than cook, and voluntarily do so... in exchange for the meal. i know many ppl who live together where one person does almost all the cooking and the other does almost all the cleaning.
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    I agree one of the most enjoyable time spent with your partner is cooking together. You can gather how they are as a person by the way they prepare their meal, and you figure out their habits, culinary favourites etc. There's always time for physical contact in a small area like the kitchen, with heat coming from the stove, reinforced by enticing smells and tastes.

    Sitting down for a meal is important in a relationship too. A good tasting meal certainly helps the interaction and intimacy. A restaurant cannot give the same level of privacy for intimacy no matter how good the food is. Home is home. Those who don't take pride in cooking will not understand the fact that cooking and succeeding in producing good food gives oneself a strong sense of achievement and feel-good hit. This carries through during the meal and post meal activities.

    Being able to cook good food is important, but if she is willing to learn and spend time in the kitchen, then it's a positive start.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Trien Chieu View Post
    Ok, let put it this way.
    Yes, cooking at home indeed save you money and the food is healthier and more delicious. However, for relationship, being a good cook is a bonus but there other things that are way more important. I can live with instant noodle with ground pork and/or ham/turkey sandwich. For me, a good looking face is much more important than being a good cook.
    I agree with your view that being a good cook is a bonus. In fact, a lot of guys consider other factors first, way ahead of cooking. Often, factors such as looks, personality, education qualifications or financial stability, pushes cooking way behind when choosing a potential partner.

    Is a good looking face important than being a good cook? I believe this is quite true for most men.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Extremer88 View Post
    For guys, can you accept ladies who can't cook?

    Personally, I would expect my lady to be able to cook at least, some simple dishes. She doesn't have to be a good cook, or an expert in Chinese Cuisine, etc.
    "Can't cook" as in "chooses not to cook and is therefore no good at it", or "tries her best to cook well, but is no good at it"?

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    It is more an issue of refusing to cook. I don't really mind a girl who can't do anything at all but is willing to try. That in itself tells me what she's like inside. Of course I do agree that I have to be attracted to her first, her personality and attitude comes next and is the deciding factor of a long term relationship.

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    i can cook about 3 dishes that can be compared (maybe) to a restuarant, rest just taste bad, casue i cant really cook so i wouldnt expect her to be great at cooking since if im not one.

    so yes i can accept ladies who cant cook

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