In terms of a person's identity, which one is the real one that counts in life? The person as he sees himself, or the way the rest of the world sees the person?
The way you see yourself.
The way the rest of the world judges you.
In terms of a person's identity, which one is the real one that counts in life? The person as he sees himself, or the way the rest of the world sees the person?
The "real" you is what really counts how people sees you is only superficial and you shouldn't care about it too much.
Life is very short and it's a shame if you use a substantial amount of time thinking about how people think or sees you. In the end what really matters is that you are happy and that is different for every individual.
Some people like money others treasure familiy and friendships. You should ask yourself what makes you truly happy!
My personal values are out of sync with those of my family. I'm one of them, but I'm different from most of them.
I owe my family a great deal, but at the same time, I can't *be* like most of them. I just wish both they and I could accept that just because I'm different and want to go my own, very different way, I'm not betraying or disowning them. Just because they're my family doesn't mean that I like all their flaws or share all their values, and just because I don't want to share all their flaws or *even* their values, it doesn't mean I don't want to be part of the family.
They don't see it that way, though. Either I'm in lockstep with them all the way, or I'm not really one of them. This is a big part and what's kept messing me up.
Man it really sucks being in your shoes. You are an adult and should be able to decide what you want to do with your life. You should tell them that and if they don't get it it's not your problem.
I personally have no problems cutting connection with my family members save my mom.
By far all that matters is the way you see yourself!
What you seek is seeking you. Believing is Seeing. Anything is possible if only if you could believe it!
Hermetic Law of Attraction
If you truly are the "real" you, then most of the time, that's what others would see as well. Yes, yes, we misunderstand and misperceive, but overall, we're quite accurate.
Because I'm somewhere in between,
My love and my agony.
Yah, that must be it.
Because I'm somewhere in between,
My love and my agony.
Psst. She's being sarcastic in the second post.
PS: Most people have an at least somewhat distorted view of themselves.
Last edited by Ren Wo Xing; 09-30-10 at 09:16 PM.
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You should have added BOTH...and NEITHER, for the special SPCNETers...
The person that I know to be me and the person that others know to be me doesn't always coincide...however the fundamental personality and core values are still the same. Our inner selves and outer persona shouldn't be vastly different from one another, ideally anyway.
Your question's strange. After all, the person is still the same...it's only the perspective that differs. Maybe I don't quite understand.
I like me.
How you see yourself shape your past, present, future.
So, the way you see yourself matters more.
Btw, I think 'the person as he sees himself' and 'the way the rest of the world sees the person' are both different aspect of the same person.
Last edited by kidd; 10-03-10 at 10:45 PM.
什麼是朋友?朋友永遠是在你犯下不可原諒錯誤的時候,仍舊站在你那邊的笨蛋。~ 王亞瑟
和諧唔係一百個人講同一番話,係一百個人有一百句唔同嘅說話,而又互相尊重 ~ - 葉梓恩
"Be yourself, unless you suck."
忽见柳荫下两个小孩子在哀哀痛哭,瞧模样正是武敦儒、武修文兄弟。郭芙大声叫道:「喂,你们在干甚麽?」武 修文回头见是郭芙,哭道:「我们在哭,你不见麽?」
Last edited by kidd; 10-03-10 at 11:41 PM.
什麼是朋友?朋友永遠是在你犯下不可原諒錯誤的時候,仍舊站在你那邊的笨蛋。~ 王亞瑟
和諧唔係一百個人講同一番話,係一百個人有一百句唔同嘅說話,而又互相尊重 ~ - 葉梓恩
What can I say? I'm still standing! No weapon against me shall prosper! I am more than a conqueror!!!
I don't care to sit by the window on an airplane. If I can't control it, why look?
I think both are equally important.
If you were accused of lying or stealing but you're really innocent. It is nice to know yourself that you have truth on your side ...but sometimes it also matters that others acknoledge that you're telling the truth. Especially if you're on trial and the jury doesn't hold a good opinion of you ;P
Last edited by Snafu3721; 10-05-10 at 01:42 AM.
I agree. Both are equally important. Mostly everyone in the world will see himself/herself as the greatest human being on earth, though that's usually not true. If you've been misunderstood by EVERYONE in the whole world, then perhaps you're not conveying yourself correctly...and perhaps, there could be some truth in how everyone else judges you.
80% of the time, the way the world see u
20% of the time, the way u see yourself
you can say all you want about being yourself, but even when u hate wearing that dam suit to work, u still gotta wear it. your not going to pick your nose in public even though it itches and u need to do it right there. your not going to straight up tell a distinct relative of yours u hate his/her cooking when u cant stand it.
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