Raddie, when you have Candide, TC, Ken Cheng, Flying Fox, Cedric, and godforbid roses all agreeing with each other, that must be the correct solution. When Candide is telling you not to screw a person, then don't do it.
If you want to be a good friend go ahead. But don't get too emotionally evolved - it's her problem, not yours; and definitely don't get romantically and sexually involved.
You may think we don't understand as we don't know the whole story, but neither do you.