If you don't try, you won't know.
Because I'm somewhere in between,
My love and my agony.
Do you think your cousins will understand after that many years? Or does that not matter regardless?
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Ken, if it is a comparism between you and YG, it's easy. Your cousins who are grown-up now should know by now and able to agree that YG doesn't exist in the real world so you can easily own YG if you could pay Mr Kam a visit sometime.
What can I say? I'm still standing! No weapon against me shall prosper! I am more than a conqueror!!!
I don't care to sit by the window on an airplane. If I can't control it, why look?
There's more to it than that, though.
They need to know and acknowledge that what they did all those years ago was wrong, no matter how unintentional it was, and that it had horrible consequences for me. They need to know that a few weeks' of youthful thoughtlessness caused a lifetime of suffering.
They need to know all that.
They didn't know the harm they caused you against you know the harm you could possibly cause them soon.
Hmm.
Are you serious? You're going to try and lay 25 years of 'suffering' on their shoulders for something stupid they did as kids?
Even if there is a direct causation, the fact remains that the only person you have to blame for allowing '25 years of suffering' to result from their stupid juvenile crap is you yourself. It's not exactly as though you're the only person whose ever had tough or humiliating moments in childhood. Hell, I'll wager most people here have undergone similar types of experiences, but no one else has ended up like you.
I'll wish you luck, but quite frankly, I expect your cousins to be just as incredulous as the members of this forum are.
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Gees, I really wonder what they did. It's sounds as serious as proper abuse.
Imo, you will get over this faster if you just drop it, instead of bringing it up with your cousins.
No offense, if you go up to me and started confronting me with an incident that I may/may not feel responsible for 25 years ago, you are unlikely to get the response you are seeking. Pity and ridicule is the last thing you need right now.
Clearly you figured something out after all those years, it's never to late to act in the right direction.
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I really hope your cousins are extremely generous and understanding people. If they refuse to acknowledge what you want them to acknowledge, will you go crazy and descend even further? And Are you prepared for what if they do not acknowledge?
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忽见柳荫下两个小孩子在哀哀痛哭,瞧模样正是武敦儒、武修文兄弟。郭芙大声叫道:「喂,你们在干甚麽?」武 修文回头见是郭芙,哭道:「我们在哭,你不见麽?」
His cousins will probably tell him to build a bridge.
What's the worst thing a cousin could do at that age? Call you fat and fart on your head while you're sleeping?
Ah sh!t, I think I owe my cousin an apology for that one...
"Anything you can't say NO to is your MASTER, and you are its SLAVE."
"I disapprove of what I say, but I will defend to the death my right to say it."
Ken, I was in a similar emotional situation before but mine would probably have driven you to plan a scheme to murder that person. Really.
It happened more than a year ago. Nothing was going right for me, I was depressed and future seems to be coated by a shade of grey. I was stuck in an "ice-chamber" and I still had to face a load of bullsh1t, plus a series of drama to make it all more "exciting". Then, this cow out of some turkey house still make my life difficult by showing her colours to me, stepping on my tail. It's difficult to just shallow that kind of pride (my stubbornness may not weigh less than yours and I'm extremely prideful), especially when I'm not accountable to her at all. Absolutely not! It's not about work BTW.
Reality, however, had signalled me to move on. There's really nothing I can do besides moving on. Unless miracle happens, and time go back to that moment for me to teach that cow a lesson.
What would you do if you're in my shoes?
What can I say? I'm still standing! No weapon against me shall prosper! I am more than a conqueror!!!
I don't care to sit by the window on an airplane. If I can't control it, why look?
The first part of your objective is fine: let them know what they did "damaged" you. You can easily achieve that just by telling them.
The second part however, is to get their acknowledgment that they contributed to your suffering, which requires their compliance with your demand. You would not be able to achieve this goal if they refuse to acknowledge, would you? So if you want to achieve this goal, I suggest you put some thought into it.
忽见柳荫下两个小孩子在哀哀痛哭,瞧模样正是武敦儒、武修文兄弟。郭芙大声叫道:「喂,你们在干甚麽?」武 修文回头见是郭芙,哭道:「我们在哭,你不见麽?」
HK47: Now do you understand the travails of my existence master? Surely it does not compare to your existence but still...
You: I survive somehow
HK47: As do I. It is our lot in life I suppose master. Shall we find something to kill to cheer ourselves up?
-KotOR
'Stepping on my tail' is a direct translation of the relatively often-used Chinese phrase, "踩我尾巴"; it means that someone acted in a way to really offend you. Not sure what the turkey house thing refers to.
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HK47: Now do you understand the travails of my existence master? Surely it does not compare to your existence but still...
You: I survive somehow
HK47: As do I. It is our lot in life I suppose master. Shall we find something to kill to cheer ourselves up?
-KotOR